• AR

'I don't have any dreams.'

Do you know what a goal is?
Google’s definition; the object of a person's ambition or effort; an aim or desired result.
What is a dream?
A cherished aspiration, ambition, or ideal

I thought the concept of a dream being a ‘cherished’ aspiration was interesting because the only ‘difference’ between a goal and a dream is how you it makes you FEEL.


The weight of what a goal ‘is’ and what your goals ‘should be’ in accordance to your life can be so intimidating that we question our ambitions and can lose touch with what it is that we cherish.


I started to learn how to dream when I began working at Kikki.K; it was the founder’s dream to teach the rest of the world how to dream. Kristina Karlson released a book, ‘Your Dream Life Starts Here’, and she touches on the idea that when we are children we know how to dream. Children don’t have that second thought of self-doubt. She talks about how dreaming is a skill that needs to be practised and over time will become a skill you have acquired.


I do not believe it is a coincidence that I was offered an opportunity by Kikki.K within the same 6 weeks of this book being released and with that the beginning of Kirstina's Dream Life Movement.


Fast forward to my first dreaming activity where we just wrote down all of our dreams. It was pretty hard at first; I remember I thought, ‘I don’t have any dreams’. I certainly had no idea about Thrivehivee and was working full time because we wanted to buy a house.

So top of the list was;


Buy a house.


Next was; have my dream wedding, be happy with myself physically…I couldn’t think of too much else after that until we were prompted with questions like ‘what would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?’, ‘if you had all the time in the world what would you do with you day?’. I managed to get another 4-6 dreams down which included owning my car and having a horse..

The horse thing surprised me because I forgot how much I loved horses and how I used to ride a lot when I was younger, (there’s a story for another blog 😉 ). So when I was doing the exercise a few weeks later, I was surprised again because the horse idea triggered my feelings of ‘cherishment’. I like to call it a ‘Heart Warmer’, because it’s a dream that warms your heart.



Having been triggered by my warm heart, I was able to vaguely remember other things I enjoyed doing that used to warm my heart also; Singing in a choir, playing touch football, acting in high school drama. I truly missed the feelings that those activities used to bring me and I started to use those emotions, holding onto that warm heart feeling, to visualise future heart warming moments. And that’s how I learnt to dream.


Once I started my list, I couldn’t really stop! They all just kept flowing and I got to nearly 40 dreams! Horses were still on there, but it became more realistic; like a movie in my mind I was able to dream of owning a horse. And not only own a horse, but have two, so they could keep each other company.

I challenged myself to take it deeper, I wanted to ride them, and I dreamt of having access to somewhere to ride them… why stop there?


I dreamt of riding my horse up the driveway on my property to the house that Tom and I owned. The house had a double garage for Tom, a stunning kitchen, with an island bench made of marble that I could put my hot pans on and dishes on!


And just like that I started to really dream. I remember leaving the session, having completed the exercise for a second time, and I cried the entire way home because I forgot that I DESERVED to want those things. And who cares if that doesn’t ever happen? The idea, warms my heart.

Honestly, I took my mum to the workshop with me and when I asked for her feedback she said, ‘For the first time since she could remember, she was talking to Jo. Herself. Not someone’s mum, not someone’s friend, daughter, sister or colleague; but herself.' I refer to this as a heart connection.




After doing my list of dreams I was able to look at all of them and look for similarities in them, was it creativity, was it the freedom, was it the relationships?

And by looking at this list I was able to decide on my goals. Although I am not actively working towards owning a horse, I am actively working towards owning a home, and having acknowledged my dream home and the heart connection to a bigger picture, it allows room for self compassion; compassion towards where I want to be, and it allows for direction.


Kristina does have some great dreaming prompts on her website that you can listen to while you write your dreams out but I also have just fallen in love with Allan Watts and have attached one of my new favourite speeches. His voice is very soothing and I find it quite nurturing too!


Allan Watts


Kristina's Prompts


I hope you guys enjoyed this and I really encourage you to physically get your dreams out into the universe by writing them down.


You DESERVE to know what warms your heart.

If knowing what warms your heart makes you sad, I think it’s time you connect with yourself again and dive deeper.


Be the best version of yourself

Try everyday; you deserve it.

AR

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